Commit

 

I’m committing to getting better.  January 28^th completed my 7^thmonth on the job in Carlisle.  At timesit can be overwhelming and make you feel like you’re spinning your wheelsgetting anywhere but we need to step back at times,  look at what we’ve done and be encouraged byprogress.  

We’ve started some projects, are doing some thingsdifferently than in the past, have other projects on the radar and have avision for what the future might look like. Part of building a vision is hoping to see progress toward it which canbe frustrating at times but I’ve always believed that success is a journey,  not a destination and believe that we have tobe about trying to get better every day even if it’s in small steps. 

One of the ways I’m going to try and get better is to communicatesome thoughts and share a blog more frequently. My goal is to have this be a larger version of Twitter to help me be moreconsistent which will keep it more manageable at around 2+ tweets length at 300or so characters, but it will probably more like 300 words since Twitter countsevery character and space to reach 140. 

I got a book a couple of weeks ago by Jon Gordon (norelation) “One Word that Will Change Your Life”.  Highly recommended.  Reads in about 30-40 minutes.  My word for the year is COMMIT.  I’m going to commit to being better in everyarea of my life.  Husband, Father,Grandfather, Job, healthy choices…you get the picture.  Every area.  Even as a blogger.  So, I’ll try to share a few thoughts once aweek on Monday morning.  I’ll COMMIT to gettingbetter.  How about you? Let’s get on thejourney together. 

A Week Down

I've been at my new job in Carlisle now for a week.  It's going well and I'm getting settled in.  Deb has been over twice (July 4th and then for the weekend) which was nice.  We celebrated her birthday on Sunday with her twin sister Denise.  


But the biggest news of the last week is our house situation.  Our house in Treynor is sold with the contingencies removed.  Great feeling.  Here's a funny story with a little history first.  We had been over to Carlisle and looked at 10-12 houses a couple of different times in the last month.  Without revealing the location yet we had decided the house we wanted to make an offer on when the time was right.  


On Tuesday I had gone out to eat and decided to go by the house that we liked just take another look with the principal here.  As we pulled up to the house and I stepped out of the car my phone rang and it was our realtor from Treynor telling me that our house was sold and all contingencies were removed.  Wow, what incredible timing to get that call at that time.  (A sign?)

SOLD!!!

One of the best, OK the best, call I made all week was to Deb telling her.  I did however have to tell her a couple of times because she didn't quite understand how I put it the first time I told her.  It was great to be able to celebrate that together when Deb came over later that night and then the 4th of July.  


We have made an offer on the home that we like in the Carlisle district and are now waiting to settle on that with the seller.  More on that as things progress.  


We're now just having to work out the closing date on our Treynor house and we'll work something out on the Carlisle home as well which leads to a little different situation for us.  Even with all of the excitement we now have the reality that we need to find housing for Deb, Abby, and Parker for the next 3 months because we don't plan on having them move to Carlisle until sometime around November 1.  Deb needs to continue at the bank for awhile yet before coming over.  


So where am I living now?  Very fortunate to be living with the Beeman's in Ankeny (Brad and Denise...Deb's sister).  It's just a 25 minute drive down to Carlisle.  We're very grateful for their hospitality and the room that they have for me.  (They also have allowed us to store some boxes and things here as we begin to move stuff over.  Some is kind of a bad descriptor too...but I can still get to my bed.)


That's our week in a nutshell which brings us to several things that we're praying about and trusting God to provide.  
1)  3 month housing for Deb, Abby, and Parker.
2)  Smooth transition out of the Treynor house. 
3)  Plans of the Ricley's to get located to the University of 
      Utah to begin work in campus ministry by end of August. 

We'd appreciate any prayers for us and we'd sure be happy to pray for you and your needs.  We are so thankful for the support of our friends and family in this time of transition but we continue to find peace and comfort in our favorite passage.  


¹¹ For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.  (Jeremiah 29:11)

A New Adventure

I see it's been a year since I posted last.  i enjoyed the writing when I did it, but just got away from it....so, here I am again.  Much has changed in the past year.  And wow, I guess change is word of the year for the Gordon family since I last blogged.

Where to begin.....well, in no particular order but maybe the biggest blessing in our life has been the addition of another Grandson, Parker.  As I was blogging a year ago we knew our life was going to change but I wasn't quite able to talk about it at that point.  Parker is the son of our youngest daughter Abby.  Parker was unplanned, but is definitely not unloved.  I will probably talk about Parker more in the future, but for now, let's just say he has changed our life, but it's been good and we wouldn't imagine life without him.  Thank You God for providing this adventure.

Secondly, Thanksgiving weekend The Ricley's moved into our house upstairs to help save some money in hopes of helping them get to Salt Lake City sooner and begin their campus ministry at the University of Utah.  Needless to say, we now have a real "Full House" but we also realize that this is just a small  window in our life and we are especially enjoying having more time with them, and especially Grandson #1, Jonathan.  One thing that we have going for us is that we laugh every day and are entertained by the boys.  Because of circumstances that some may see as a burden we see as a blessing and know we are creating some memories that some never have the chance to make.  What an adventure.

Since we've talked about the entire family except A.J. it's only fair that I update him a little bit.  Not much has changed with him.  He's finished his junior year at Midland University in Fremont, NE, and will turn 22 in a week.  A.J. is majoring in Secondary Education and Coaching and will student teach next spring.  He is going to work the same security job that he's worked the past couple of summers and is continuing to lift and work out to get ready for what should be a very exciting senior season on the basketball court.

For the sake of time let's fast forward to right now.  I am preparing to start a new job in Carlisle (just SE of Des Moines city limits) as their first full time Activities Director.  Carlisle is a 3A (boys)/4A (girls) size school that really reminds us a lot of Treynor in terms of the school and community support.  This position will allow me an opportunity to work full time at what I feel my strengths are and that is working full time in area of Activities and helping to provide quality programs for student/athletes in the Carlisle Community Schools.

We never really planned to leave Treynor but we feel like God has put another adventure on our road and we're excited to take it.  This move will put us 20 minutes from Deb's sister in Ankeny so we're excited for that part of the move as well.  It also puts us closer to Iowa City (Go Hawks) and Ames (not a hater of ISU).  We look forward to being able to get to a few more games on both campuses.  May even catch a few things at Drake and other area colleges as well.

Our biggest prayer at the writing of this blog is the sale of our house.  We ARE grateful that our house didn't sell last spring when we had it listed and were looking to move to a different house here in Treynor....but now, we do need it to sell and specifically would like to get it sold in the next month or so because we have our eye on something in Carlisle that we would like to move on quickly.  If you could join us in that prayer we would be appreciative....but we know, ultimately, that God's timing will be perfect and ours is not.  He's proven that time and time again.

Again, we find ourselves comforted by the words of the prophet Jeremiah.
¹¹ For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.  (Jeremiah 29:11)  Only God knows the plans he has in store for us as we close this chapter of our lives, but that's enough.  We're headed down a different road, but we'll find our way because THE Way will be guiding us through it all.

Why would that change now?

AJ

It's been a busy couple of weeks since graduation.  We've ended another school year (28 come and gone) and I'm a few days from being fortunate to have individuals and teams competing in the state boys and girls golf tournaments for the fourth straight year.  The boys tournament is over the weekend and the girls compete for two days after Memorial Day.  Makes for a busy few days, but it's fun. 

I'm anxious to continue writing about our coaching stops, but today I thought I'd finish talking about our kids.  I've talked about the girls and where they're at in their lives right now so now, #1 and only son, Anthony James (A.J.).

Hard to believe that A.J. will turn 21 in a week.  A.J. just finished up his sophomore year at Midland University in Fremont, NE.  Some know that his journey there was not really planned from the beginning, but as we all know, sometimes we're not able to control what happens, but we can control our reaction to the events that take place in our lives.

¹¹ "For I know the plans I have for you,  declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

AJ's journey actually started at Dana College in Blair, NE.  He was recruited there to play basketball and decided to study education and become a teacher/coach.  Dana was a good fit for AJ because the size appealed to him and it was also an hour away from Treynor, which made getting to games much easier for us.  Things took a turn on June 30, 2010.  AJ was on his way to Blair to play basketball with guys on the team when I got a tweet (for those not familiar a tweet is a message you get from a Twitter account...OK, maybe that didn't help) saying that Dana College was officially closed the next day, July 1.  Needless to say, this was a shock.  I immediately called AJ and told him to be prepared and that it appeared that the college was closing.  He first thought I was messing with him, but then realized I wasn't.  When he got to the college his coach had just found out and was obviously in shock. 


We kind of faced this like we faced a number of moves in our lives.  We just had to accept the fact that where we thought AJ would spend four years of his life was not going to happen and we had to find a solution.  Through the month of July we visited four schools, Briar Cliff, Northwestern, Buena Vista, and finally Midland.  All were working very well with displaced Dana students, but after weighing all of the options AJ decided on Midland and it has ended up being a very positive move. 


His laid back personality certainly helped the situation, but I think part of his being able to adapt has been the fact that he's had to make changes several times in his life with the moves that we have made, make new friends, be in a different school/community, and even though this was a tough deal, he adjusted well and found another new home. 

We're really proud of AJ for a number of reasons, but in particular for me, because he has done such a great job of exemplifying what it means to move forward and accept a situation, make the best of it, and just keep working.  It was a mixed year on the basketball court for AJ.  It's different when you go to a program that didn't recruit you, but you show up to be a part of the team.  AJ started at point guard the first half the season at Midland, then with some struggles that come with the long college basketball season, moved to a back up role coming off of the bench and at times we were all a little frustrated.  It was frustrating because the program and style of basketball he was recruited to play at Dana was different than the style of play the coach used at Midland.  That's college recruiting and I won't get into the different coaching style and philosophies and how that all plays into where you go to play,  but all I kept telling AJ was to keep working hard and learn from the situation.  Learn how he might communicate differently in a similar situation and how it helps him develop his coaching philosophy.  I'm proud to say he did that. 

Again, I think alot of our life becomes accepting the fact that we can't control the things or situations we're put into sometimes, but we DO control our reaction and attitude toward it.  We can take those frustrations and just be totally frustrated and negative, or we can take the frustrating situations, make the best of them, learn from them, and use those lessons in the future when life continues to happen and we come into contact with someone facing a similar situation and we have an opportunity to reach out and help them because we've "been there, done that". 

Now, another chapter of AJ's life unfolds as he enters his junior year.  A coaching change again.  Midland has hired a very fine coach and one that I'm sure will be successful there in the long run, and hopefully the short run for AJ's sake.  However, again, it's a coach that didn't recruit AJ and the other players that are there and nobody really knows how it all will turn out.  But, AJ will control what he can control which is how hard he'll work, as well as the attitude and leadership he will display.  I have no doubt he'll do that well because he always has.  He will be a better player, man, and coach because of this situation because I think it's a choice he'll make to do so.  AJ is a pretty laid back, has compassion for people, is a hard worker, displays excellent leadership skills, and is a fantastic uncle to his nephew Jonathan.  I think those personal qualities, as well as the way he has handled change already in his life, will serve him well in the future. 

He's now getting into the classes in his major more now which will be a double major of Social Sciences and History, as well as his minor in coaching.  It will be exciting to see what happens during the next couple of years in AJ's life and future unfolds for the next chapter in his life.  There will be many decisions made but I'm confident AJ will have God involved in those situations, and just like all of us, He'll help AJ Find THE Way along his road as well because He already has. 

A little house update.  Our contract with the realtor expires on Tuesday (May 31) and we'll let it expire.  It looks like God wants us to stay here in this house.  It's not the plan that we had, but when we listed it we left it in God's hands even though we thought moving to a different house would be the right thing for all of us.  Now it appears it won't work out that way but it will be exciting to see the plan God does have for us and this house. 

Happy Graduation Abby

Been since Mother's Day that I have gotten to really get on the computer.  Most of the week was consumed with graduation prep, as well as 3 golf meets, but when the dust settled yesterday, our youngest, Abby Joy, is a high school graduate and done with that phase of her life. 

Abby graduated with highest honors, received a multi-sport athlete award, was part of a state championship jazz choir group, and in only one semester of art received the most Outstanding Work awards (3) at the conference art show of any student at Treynor this year.  She had a real nice experience at a very competitive high school as part of a very competitive class academically and in the extra curricular areas.  Abby, we love you, we're proud of you, and look forward to seeing what God has in store for you.

One of the neatest messages Abby got was from one of our friends who had heard a great analogy on the radio the night before.  Simply said, "you can't unscramble eggs".  I think that is just a great way to look at some of the things we get ourselves into.  Once a situation arises all we can do is accept it, make the best of it,  lean on our family, friends, and most importantly our Heavenly Father, and do the absolute best that we can with the situation. 

God has used so many people with so many different backgrounds and problems throughout the ages to accomplish His plans and bring people into a relationship with Him because of contact with someone who is able to minister to them at a very important time and crossroads in their life.  I firmly believe that we are all put into situations or have situations in our lives to grow, learn, and eventually use those situations to minister to others.  After all, isn't that what we're here for. 

Mark 12

²⁸ One of the teachers of the law came and heard them debating. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answer, he asked him, “Of all the commandments, which is the most important?”
   ²⁹ “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one.^{[e] 30} Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’^{[f] 31} The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’^[g] There is no commandment greater than these.”

Our neighbors might be our immediate neighbors, but I think of our neighbors in broader sense and they are also those people that are going to go through the same things that we will go through, or have gone through and God is going to bring us into their lives to minister to them.  We have to be ready for the opportunities when they are presented to us and act though.  I know there have been times when I've looked back on a situation or person that has crossed my path and I know I missed it and just hate the fact that I didn't act or speak.  I think it should just remind us to not get to caught up in our day to day busyness and miss those opportunities. 

So, Deb and I now have all of our kids through high school, one through college, one half way through this week, and one on her way.  Wow.  time goes so fast.  Don't miss the opportunities with your family and friends.  We're entering a new phase of our life and we're looking forward to it and know it will bring new challenges, but it will also bring new ways to reach out to a Father who loves us and will never leave us.  I pray we all embrace the twists and turns of life and remember that we can't "unscramble the eggs" but we can see God in the midst of them and He will help us Find THE Way. 

¹¹ For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. ¹² Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. ¹³ You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. (Jeremiah 29)

Happy Mothers Day

Spent the morning at church in Kingsway watching our grandson Jonathan get dedicated at church.  It got me thinking about what an awesome responsibility parents have and how it seems to just get tougher and tougher to raise kids as each generation steps up to the plate and begins their parenting journey.  But, one thing always stays the same.  The strength and wisdom of our God.  He was there with my mom when she and my dad began their parenting journey in 1962.  He was there with Deb and I when we became parents in 1987, and he's there for Nicole and Brett as they started a new chapter of their lives on Dec. 30, 2010.  What a great comfort as we seem to constantly have change and new challenges come into our lives.  Parenting is a great responsibility and our children and grandchildren are a gift from God.  Good to know we never have to do it alone. 

I'd especially like to thank the mother of my children, Deb, for being a rock in our family and being a fantastic mom, and now grandma.  She is "worth far more than rubies" (Proverbs 31:10).  Thank you Deb.  Something has been passed down and modeled correctly because Nicole is a wonderful and loving mother as well and I know it makes us very proud.  Blessings to you Nicole.  And, in both of them I see so much of my mom and know that how she lived and loved lives on how each of them love and care for their families.  I'd encourage you to read Proverbs 31 if you haven't already today.  If you were fortunate to have a godly mother then you'll probably see your mom in some of the verses.  I know I did. 

It's been over 6 years since we suddenly lost my mom and Mother's Day is kind of bittersweet, but when I get to see Deb with our kids and  now see Nicole with our grandson I get to see some of my mom in them and I am reminded of how lucky I was and am.  Thanks mom for teaching us to love our families, to take time to enjoy family, and showing us all what it means for a mom, grandma, dad, grandpa, son, daughter, wife, or husband to love God and live their life for them.  You've helped alot of us Find The Way and I'm thankful for the years we had together. 

Best Move? No, But Wait!

¹¹ For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

1987-1989

Being a young coach I was going to finally be a head boys basketball coach and was going to turn around a dismal program.  No question about it.  At least that was my plan. 

The move to Lisbon took place because I wanted to be a head boys coach and was desperate to be one.  I really didn't care where.  It was my arrogant mentality that I could go anywhere and win.  Wow, what a tough lesson to learn.  Lisbon, at that time, was the wrestling capital of Iowa.  How dumb does that make this move sound now?  (I also found out later that my mom was not happy with me either for taking her 5 month old granddaughter 4 hours away......oops).

Well, from a basketball coaching standpoint it wasn't a great move at all.  From an eternal standpoint it was life changing.  As most know, and I mentioned before, I grew up in the church, knew about right from wrong, knew what God's plan for salvation was, but just hadn't made any commitment to it.  Which brings me to this thought. 

Can it be that God moves in the lives of a non christian to give them opportunities to come to Him? 

I really don't know but I do believe that God loves everyone and wants all of His creation to come into a relationship with Him and I think He does work in lives to allow them the opportunity to choose whether or not to follow Him.  

One thing that I do know is that  I heard the message of God's love from someone other than my dad.  Dad is a great communicator of God's word and was a fantastic preacher so it wasn't his fault that I hadn't yet become a Christian, but I think I did need to get away from the church in Griswold and hear it from Steve Pike at the church in Martelle, IA.  Steve's preaching style really communicated with me and something about how he presented The Word made it start to really sink in.  For those of us who are parents it's like when we tell our kids something and they say, yeah whatever or just blow us off, but if someone else says the same thing it may get them to listen and it makes more sense to them. 

The biggest thing that happened was that God became my God.  He wasn't just my parents God, or my other family members and friends God.  He started to become my God and I started to really want and have that relationship with Him.  There are times in our lives where God becomes very real and active in our life and for me it was when I moved away from my home church and home area.  So, on a weeknight in October of 1988 Deb and I drove to the church, met with Steve and he baptized me.  One of the main things I remember about that moment was that I felt a great relief and weight lifted off me knowing that I had been fighting this for many years, been stubborn about surrendering, and now I had a hope that I'd never had before. 

I do believe that is the main reason I went to Lisbon, but from a basketball and coaching point of view I learned a valuable lesson as well.  Talent beats good coaching, and granted, I wasn't that good of a coach yet, but that experience made me realize that you need talented players before you even think about having a good team.  I think we did some good things there.  We started an elementary program at Lisbon and that was something that they had never had before.  We had some good kids who played hard and I think got better because we coached with passion and made them feel good about being a basketball player in a wrestling school and community.  We only one 4 games in 2 years there.  One in the first year and three in the second year.  We were more competitive and played hard and I felt good about what we were doing.  The guys got better fundamentally and worked hard and were good to be around.  I don't know where many of them are right now, but I do run into one of them, even saw him last year when we went to Grand View for one of AJ's basketball games.  I'd be interested to try and find out where some of these guys are at because there were some very smart and good kids and I'm hoping that they are doing well. 

God has a plan and that was the first time I ever submitted to it.  I still fight it from time to time, but isn't it cool to know that He loves us so much more than we love our own kids and grandkids, knows our name, and wants us to trust Him as we continue to find our way in this life?  It's humbling but I'm so thankful for the move to Lisbon, IA for obviously more than just being a basketball coach.  That move ended up helping me Find my Way and changed my life forever.